The SET Back

There’s always a time in life were  it seems like we’ve been set back. Whether it’s not going to school at the right time, having a unplanned baby, or even staying at a job longer than suppose to be. I’ve had many moments in my life where I’m like, “dang, I feel stuck I’m not moving, or I’ve been here way to long but I don’t know what to do”.

Those are the moments when I secretly start to regret decisions that I have made in the past.

I’ve resented those around me who are moving forward and seem able to make decisive choices about where they want to be and what they need to be doing. Not realizing that they had a process that they had to go through too.

It’s funny to me how the world makes it seem so easy to choose or make a choice and stand on that choice. But when it all boils down sticking to a decision can be the hardest thing. Our choices not just effect us but those around us now and those who will be around us in the future. So when pondering my life I had to come to the realization that even my sets backs are an opportunity.

An opportunity for God to use me in a way that is fit for my life. And if I allowed Him to just use me for His will then He would shape me into the Woman I AM suppose to be. Even our set back are weaved into our journey though life as unperfect creatures. We see that it the lives of both Joseph and Daniel in the Bible. Like really who would have thought that being put in a pit by his brothers would lead him to the very kingship that he dreamed about (read Genesis 37-50). Or being dragged out of his country would have lead him to be one of the head government officials in the kings court (read Daniel).

Embracing them isn’t a easy thing. I sit back and wonder often how my life would be if I didn’t have a child out of wedlock and how different it would be if I wasn’t a single mother. But the truth of the matter is it would have been different but that doesn’t mean it would have been any easier. Sometimes we use our thoughts to counteract other thoughts to make ourself feel better instead of embracing the process that is for us (I’m clearly guilty off).

I’m ready to embrace ME … embrace YOU with me!

Be Sweet 🍯

The NEW Normal


My family is a very dysfunctional family, arguing is a norm it happens like it’s a conversation. It isn’t a conversation if there isn’t some sort of yelling.

Funny thing is when I finally realized it I sat back to look at the situation.

Why is everyone yelling?

What is the underlying words that aren’t being spoken?

Do we really care about each other if we communicate like this?

What I know now is that we all were in the the same boat wanting to get out what we really felt but we felt as if no one heard us. So instead of having a “regular” coversation seasoning our words with grace we screamed it out.

I grew up with the notion that if I spoke up it would change the trajectory of my relationships whether it was with my parents, my former boyfriends, my siblings, my friends, any of my bossy, co workers, or my spiritual parents. But what I realize is that if I didn’t speak up then it would allow people to treat me however they wanted.

It comes down to a decision be bold or be afraid.

When you come to the realization that your voice matters too then you will not have a problem speaking up for yourself. You won’t say yes to everything and anything you’ll start saying no for the sake of GAINING PEACE and keeping it.

So if your one who struggles with talking I urge you to speak even when it may feel uncomfortable too! It may help change someone else’s life!

Be Sweet 🍯!