The Gift

When is the last time you received a gift?

Hummmmmmm, what pops in your mind when you think about a gift?

Do you think of money, a car, a vacation, do you think of materialistic things or small sentiments.

What crosses your mind when you think about the word?

Last night Shanti (my bestie) and I were talking about how we can have something in our possession but totally miss out by not getting the full use or have an understanding on how to utilize it.

As we were talking she said God gave “‘me this as a gift”. I said now ain’t that a word? We started cracking up because surely it is.

So back to the first question. God just gave you a gift.

What is a gift? (It could be a person, materials, or whatever you perceive as a gift)

How sentimental is the gift to you?

What did you do the show your appreciation for that gift?

I know for myself I’ve fumbled the ball in the area of really noticing that something is a gift. That it was my time to do the in wrapping. How about the gift of having my mom in my life. My mom believed in many times where I didn’t believe in myself.

The Word says that if we give good gifts to our children, just imagine how much better how much better are the gifts from me (paraphrasing)

God not only care about of outer but He is concern about the inner more part to. And as a child of the kings of Kings I can’t imagine what mines will be.

God is faithful to see the things he speaks about truth.

Know your gifts, understand your gifts, and push to succeed in that gift.

Be sweet 🍯

The Push

I’m in a very peculiar place in my life we’re I’m being challenged to step outside of my regulars into a uncomfortable and unfamiliar place.

I call it the PUSH.

Why because like a mother birthing out there child it’s uncomfortable but necessary for the baby to make it out of his/her mothers womb breathing and ready to explore this new life.

About a month ago I was fasting and had been literally bugging God asking Him what time did He want me to spend time with Him. Y’all I was shocked when he finally answered me.

So my cousin and I were driving to one of our friends mother funeral and a car cut in front of us on the highway. As I glanced at the license plate it said “5AM”. My eyes became really big and I starting talking to myself inside my heart. I said, “God you are funny, 5AM wow that is really early and something I’m not use to but I’m going to be obedient.”

Let me tell y’all about the challenge though. I am a night owl and can literally be up all . all night and sleep until noon. So you see how this has been growing, stretching, and PUSHING ME outside of my norms.

Most days have been easier than other. Especially when I set my mind of those things above and not beneath. When I think about spending time with my Daddy (Heavenly Father) I get a joy out of getting up and doing what He say.

God will PUSH you to become the version of yourself that He intended to be if you listen. Yes the God of Jacob, Issac, and Abraham. He speaks its up to us to hear Him and obey especially to the PUSH in your life.

The PUSH is helping me to be discipline even if I don’t see the results right away.

So ask yourself this. What is PUSHING me in this present time to improve in my everyday life?

Allow God to plant you now so you can sprout up in a way later that they know that you are connected to Him. That’s what I’m doing !

Be Sweet 🍯

The Purpose

The angry face

My daughter went through a surgery yesterday where she had to get her tonsils and her adenoids removed. She’s been in pain to the point were she doesn’t want to eat or drink, nor does she want to take her medicine which can soothe the pain.

Last night when I was making her some ice with juice she said to me “why would you do this to me?.” And I stopped and responded with, “baby I know it hurts now but it’s going to be good for you in the long run.” She just bust out crying because that isn’t what she wanted to hear.

As I comforted her I thought to myself how many times have I gone though some kind of pain in my life and asked the very same question. “God, why do I have to go through this?, why would you do this to me?” I’ve asked this question so many times before.

See what my daughter doesn’t understand is that because of her tonsils and adenoids she was having breathing problems which was messing with her sleep. She would wake up tired even after having a full night of sleep. Long term repercussions could have been sleep apnea.

Parallel to her the same has happened in my life (not with going though natural surgery, but spiritual surgery) were there was an unknown or unseen problem that God was fixing through my pain. Did I want to eat or drink the living word (no), did I want to take my spiritual medicine (read my Bible) no. I refused to be comforted just like Peyton.

What I didn’t understand was in the long run it would all be well worth it and I have thanked him for it.

How we perceive a situation isn’t always how God knows it’s going to turn out. He said in His Word “all things work together for the good of those who love the Lord and who are called according to His purpose.” His thoughts are not our thoughts and His ways are not our ways.

So instead of us challenging Him whenever something happens that may not feel the best let’s lean on Him and not our own understanding.

Be Sweet 🍯

The Stillness

Still?

What does it mean to be still? I would say that my definition of being still is sitting in a quiet place not doing anything, Literally. Even as I’m writing this post I’m picturing myself watching Peyton sitting in a chair and wigging around while eating and me saying to her, “Pey be still”.

It isn’t easy to be still when we live in a society that promotes fast pace lifestyle with EVERYTHING. If I’m not in the mood to cook I can either pick up some fast food or have a Uber to bring it, if I don’t feel like waiting for my favorite show to air every week I can just catch it on demand, I can pick up the phone and reach someone in a drop of a dime because of the fast pace we are going in.

But y’all what happens when God tells you to BE STILL? Let me be a little transparent. For the last 25 days I’ve been having skin-to-skin time with God. My big cousin Tiphani Montgomery (if you don’t know her look her up) taught us about the importance of Skin-to-Skin time with God.

What is Skin-to- Skin you say?

Think about what happens when a baby is born the doctors lays the baby on his/her mommas chest. The experience is amazing, the baby rest, it can’t talk , it’s can’t sing, just pure stillness, bonding and rest.

Like in the natural in the spiritual there are benefits to skin-to-skin like reduce crying, stabilized heart, breathing, and tempature of the baby and some long term effects are maternal attachment and transfer of good bacteria.

Tell me that isn’t amazing !

Being STILL in God eyes requires for us to put our trust in Him and what He doing in our lives at all times. Without even realizing it sometimes we are moving so fast and doing so much that we don’t even understand that we need skin-to-skin with our Heavenly Father to regulate us, so we can bond with him, so we can hear, so we can rest, and so we can get some good bacteria from Him.

It’s critical in this time to take a moment to BE STILL and remember your responsibilities will always be there.

I challenge each of you to spend 60 minutes of uninterrupted time laying on your Creator, your Father chest. Watch how your life begins to change little by little.

Be Sweet 🍯

The Change

Written August 2018

It’s always amazes me how the season change and new situations come sweeping in.

Currently I’ve been having mixed emotions about this season I’m in now.

Even though there’s a lot to be joyful for like one of my best friend is getting married in October and she asked me to be her maid of honor, my daughters father is home for incarceration so I have a little more free time on my hands, I’m growing a little everyday in each of my relationships whether it’s a growth from understanding and acting on something positive or seeing something negative and learning how to walk through it.

Even with the growth though I still feel unfulfilled, I still feel like there is something missing from my life and I’m having trouble finding it. I’m having trouble sitting still and trusting God to lead and guide my footsteps. I mean I guess we all get into these slumps right?

How do we smile with our friends when great things are happening in there lives and ours seem to be standing still and not moving? How do we truly be happy with ourself when it seems like we have nothing to be happy about?

Let’s be honest here, I realize that my discontentment has nothing to do with anyone else but everything to do with me. How I view things, how I manuever through difficult and happy times. Change can sometimes be one of the hardest but needed things in our life.

One that I’m going to continue to do is be hopefully about change. I’m praying the same for you!

Be Sweet🍯

The Positioning

Written December 5th, 2018

It’s funny how God will position us in the right place at the right time just to receive something that He set up since before we even existed. I laugh because there’s so many times that I look back on and I’m like God wow that was you you did that for me.

Me little ole me what did I do to deserve that. But God doesn’t look at me or you as little at all see He has a predestined plan for our life (Jer. 29:11) that He’s putting together just so that we can for one fufill the work that He has for us on this earth and also so that we can be full.

You might say full of what?

Full of life, full of joy, full of hope, full of purpose, full of passion and most importantly full of love.

See it’s something about being exactly where God put me that give me a sense of me being worth it and I now understand that it’s because I’m doing exactly what I’m suppose to be doing where I’m suppose to be doing it and whether some days are harder than others there is still a grace that He gives me and you to do it.

For instance, I recently went through a period where I felt like I was ready to leave my now current church (Kingdom Keys Ministry) well I did that in September and from 9/9 – 11/11 I went back to the church I attended before I joined KKM and the experience was amazing I began to get filled up in the areas we’re I felt drained but I didn’t have any direction.

So I prayed and prayed and asked God what should I do but I didn’t get an answer you guys I mean really God was silent. I recieved answers about other prays but not this particular one until 11/11.

Let me tell y’all I went into service that morning excited because Bishop Calhoun was in town and I just knew he would have a fire word from the Lord that would push me closer to my predestined place but something interesting having when I stepped into the sanctuary this feeling came over me. I WASNT SUPPOSE TO BE THERE ! I knew it in that moment. I couldn’t lift my hands to worship like I normally would. I just stood there listening and singing but in my heart I knew.

Before I actually took the steps to rejoin the ministry I prayed that God would show me before Dec. 1st and unexpectedly He did that day. When Bishop started preaching his message was centered around “being where your suppose to be to fulfill your destiny” I was taking aback and I knew I had to go back because if not I would miss something major that was about to happen in my life.

NOW I am back in position was it easy, no but I’m pretty sure it’s well worth it! So anyone of you who may be feeling out of place speak to God and ask him even if He doesn’t answer you right at that second he will answer.

So what did I do? I listened …

Stay Encouraged, Stay Expecting , Stay in Position !

Be Sweet 🍯

The Disobedience

Wow! This one is one for the books. As I’m reading 1 (first) Samuel chapter 15. The word disobedience keeps popping in my head.

Have you ever been in a situation where your mother or father gave you an instruction but you didn’t follow all the way through with it. For example, my mom told me (instruction) to wash the dishes, sweep the floor, and cut off the lights. I decide that I’m going to wash the dishes, sweep the floor, but I’ll cut off the light later because I’m not going to bed yet. But I end of falling asleep and never turning off the light.

My mom wakes up notices the light is on wakes me out of my sleep and now I’m upset but it’s my fault because I didn’t follow the directions all the way through.

Have you ever been in a situation where you obeyed some but not the full directions which resulted in consequences?

Well this was the life of King Saul. As I’m reading I’m noticing how Saul wasn’t really good at listening and following through on what God told him to do. Not just in this chapter but in chapters before.

I watched (and I say watch because when I’m reading it’s almost like I’m watching a movie lol) how God gives King Saul specific instructions and he just moves outside of God everytime (go read 1 Samuel 13-15). Which resulted in him losing his place as the anointed king of Israel. So of course I begin to examine me.

How many times have I drop the ball in being fully obedient to God, His Word, and those in positions of authority over my life? If I can be completely truthful it’s an area that I struggle in greatly.

But y’all, I’m at a place where I don’t want to be that person anymore so I have been and continue to make different decisions even when there difficult ones. I realized through reading that some of King Saul’s disobedience stemmed from different areas like fear, pride, and a know it all spirit. Those things have to be dealt with in each and everyone of us in order for us to successfully move forward the way God sees fit.

TRUTH be told, each of our actions whether good or bad have a rippling effect on those around us as it did in King Saul’s life. We have to look at our true intent when doing things, look at what’s happening in our heart in order for us to truly repent.

Let’s examine ourselves together so we can be on the obedient side of the fence with the Lord our God.

Be Sweet 🍯

The Prophecy

Prophecy? Some of you may be saying what is that? What is Honey talking about? Let’s take a look at what the word prophecy means:

According to dictionary.com the word prophecy means:

⁃ the foretelling or prediction of what is to come

⁃ Something that is declared by a prophet, especially a divinely inspired prediction, instruction, or exhortation

⁃ A divinely inspired utterance or revelation

What if I told you that everything you speak out of your mouth about yourself becomes a prophecy (prediction of what is to come). Whether good or bad the things which you speak will come into existence if not now then somewhere down the line.

Let me share a quick story with you all. If you have been reading my post from the beginning then you will be able to follow along with no problem.

I’m taking you’ll back to when I was pregnant with Pey. Thing we’re rocky between her father and I and we weren’t in a relationship when we conceived her. If you were anywhere in my close circle you would know that I constantly would say, “I’m going to be a single mom raising my daughter, we’re going to be okay my mom raised all 5 of us and she was single. When Peyton turns 9 months old my husband is going to show up we will get married and we’re going to raise her together. He’s going to be a great stepdad.”

Constantly with no thought these were my words as the months flew passed. Not knowing that I was prophesying over myself and Peyton. I was calling those things I could not see yet as if it was already there.

9 months after I gave birth to this beautiful baby girl.

What did you all think happened?

I was working at this hotel as a bartender and that night I was schedule to work a party and you’ll I did not want to work this party at all. I went around the whole kitchen and bar area to see if someone wanted to switch but no one would.

With a pout I went to my station. As I was working. BAM a familiar face walks through the door and we meet eyes. My heart starts racing as a smile breaks out on both of our faces. All I could hear in my spirit was “HUSBAND”. He came over to the bar and wouldn’t leave until I gave him my number. I would have never thought, not that night and not this person. It was well worth it.

I spoke him into existence without even knowing that my words were powerful. You’ll that’s how powerful our words are. The Bible tells us life and death are in the power of the tongue (paraphrasing). Your words can become a self proclaimed prophecy over your life and your children (if you have them). Be very careful of what your saying.

SIDENOTE: I know you’ll want to know what happen with me and “MR”. Lol I’ll save that for another time.

In the meantime let’s SPEAK life over ourselves together.

Be Sweet 🍯

The Seed

THE SEED! I know your thinking what is she talking about. I’m talking about mustard seed faith. You know the faith that Jesus said you would have if you just had a little bit of it (paraphrased). The faith that would be able to to move a mountain BELIEVED. That’s the kind of faith that is growing inside of me right now.

At this point in time I’m reading the book of 1 Samuel (GO READ) and the interesting story that opens up the book is a story about a woman name Hannah and her faith. See she was believing God for a child not one that was promised, nor owed to her but one that she desired and her belief, her SEED opened up the door for that child to be born.

Hannah had MUSTARD SEED FAITH!

That’s the kind of faith that I’m believing God for in this hour. There are things that I desire that I’m petitioning God for such as a closer and more intimate relationship with Him. I understand that only my prayers and obedience to His voice will open up the doors. I can’t let anyone and anything get in my way and I won’t.

Not even myself ! You see my journey looks a little different from others and I have to be okay with that. I use to find myself in positions where I’m hanging onto other people’s faith without developing none of my own.

The Bible says, “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen.”

⁃ Hebrews 11:1 KJV

I didn’t have a problem believe God for you, but I struggled with believing Him for me. I was lacking in the area of faith.

If you study a mustard seed, you understand that it is very small, yes it’s starts there BUT it grows to be one of the biggest trees planted and it has very deep roots.

I’m now growing to understand that when God says something to me that I have to hang on to THE SEED praying, fasting, and seeking until I can see the very thing I’ve been praying for.

I’m praying that you will grow in your faith the same way!

Be Sweet 🍯

The Journey

Bahia Principe Esmeralda | Punta Cana, DR

I must say that I love to take journeys and when I say journeys I mean the longer the timespan the more memories that are made, the more enjoyable the trip is. My family makes it a point to go on a journey at least once per year. Whether it be a flight to a resort, a Airbnb stay, a cruise, or a road trip we make time and we make a way as long as God sees fit.

I call myself an explorer. I love to see outside of where I am, to capture the beauty of other places, and to eat all different types of foods. But I ask myself what is a journey really about?

Dictionary.com explains the word to mean:

1. a traveling from one place to another, usually taking a rather long time; trip:

2. a distance, course, or area traveled or suitable for traveling:

The Thesaurus describes this word as adventure, exploration, expedition, travel, or progress.

See my family when we travel there is so many of us at any given time it can be between 4 – 16 with the children lol and there are laughs, tear good and bad, jokes, stories of different kinds, and just pure fun. Once a year we make it a point to go out of the country together on an adventure to makes memories that’ll last a lifetime. We’ve been to San Juan, Puerto Rico, Mexico, Grand Cayam Islands, Jamaica, Cuba, and Key West just to name a few. It is our way of bonding.

God has called us not just to work but to enjoy the fruits of our labor with those closest to us.

And trust me the journey is well worth it!

How do you bond with those you love?

Be Sweet 🍯