A SUDDEN Change

Wow! We have made it into the New Year… we are 25 days in and to me it has felt like a sudden change has occurred mainly with my mindset. So the last few weeks it’s been impressed on me to get my finances in order. For one reason or another I haven’t been the best steward of what God has given me in that area. But I’m learning the meaning and life lesson behind, “if you are faithful with a few, I will make you ruler over much.”

A few weeks back as I was driving God was showing me how our Spiritual Growth and how we handle finances are directly link to each other. One without the other causes all other areas to be off balance.

I want you to close your eyes and imagine you, with no money, deep down in debt, drowning. Then imagine how you would feel spiritual? Would you feel like praying or fasting? (Which if this is your story you should still pray and fast) but your answer is probably no, Why? Well because worried, doubt, and fear of not having enough would probably be your potion over faith.

I know what your maybe thinking …Hummmm Nytavia, this is a interesting concept. I know why because this is the question that I had to answer for myself.

See the Bible says that the borrower is slave to the lender, it also says that faith without works is dead and if you don’t work you don’t eat.

So in order to exercise my faith I had to get up and make a change and a commitment to get out of debt by any means necessary.

A SUDDEN CHANGE in mindset had occurred in me. It’s like a lightbulb went off. “PIVOT” It’s time to change course and turn this thing around knowing that if I live like no one else now then I can live and give like no one else later (Dave Ramsey Quote)

What is the SUDDEN change that has happened in your life in the past 19 days? I would love to hear!

Be Sweet 🍯

The Turn Around

Repentance

Right now I’m at a place were I know that true repentance is needed for me to fully walk in the destiny that awaits me.

There needs to be firm action behind the words. I mean isn’t that what REPENT means anyways.

In the Bible we see alot of people, who were chosen by God to declare to different nations to REPENT. To turn away from there sins and turn to God. This is important because without truly repenting our prayers can be held up.

It’s like God is saying, “all I want you to do is STOP ✋🏽 , think 🤔, and make a decision, a precise one.” And if we just stop for a second, quiet our mind and listen. Then we can see that His ways are different then ours and most of the stuff that we are doing is bringing us in circles anyways.

HE HAS A PLAN… HE ALWAYS DOES.

But it’s up to you and I to either accept that plan or reject it.

To be fully transparent with y’all for the last few months I’ve been rejecting the plans of God for my life out of fear. When fear creeps in it’s my natural inclination to fold under pressure. THANK GOD FOR HIS PRAYER WARRIORS. Who stayed two steps ahead of me watching not only my front but my back to make sure that even if I fall. In the spiritual realm that God will help me right back up.

I’ve seen a miracle happen right before my own eyes within myself. But even with that I had to repent (turn away from my sin and walk towards God). Not with emotion or with feelings but with faith. When the battle gets tough like Jehoshaphat (2 Chronicles 20) when I see my enemies coming I’ll run to God in fasting and prayer and not away from it.

THERE’S ALWAYS A TURNING AROUND!

Be in Expectation, Be Sweet 🍯

#DECEMBERTOREMEMBER

The Instructions

You ever try to put something together just to find out that you put one of the pieces in the wrong place lol. You sit an think dang I should have just read the instructions.

A few weeks back me and my bestfriend Ky were in her guest room and she was trying to put this fan together that she just brought because I was staying over and she wanted to make sure that I wasn’t hot. So she’s putting the pieces in one by one and then she comes to a halt. Looking real puzzled. I said, “Ky, did you read the instructions?” She said, “no”.

I pick up the instruction and start to read them. In less than 5 minutes we put the rest of the fan together and we were good to go!

God is a BEAST when it comes to giving instructions. He’s like the ultimate mastermind when it comes to the knowing what each of us need to do for our life to be lived to the fullest.

But we have a choice either we can following what He tells us to do or we can do what we want.

Trust God is not going to force you to do what HE knows is right for your life.

So let’s look at the meaning of instructions.

Google.com describes the word to mean:

1. a direction or order

2. Detailed information to tell how something should be done, operated, or assembled.

Ummmm so, in the Bible we see God doing this a few different ways. With Abraham he give him part of the directions pertaining to moving away from his family to help build his faith. For Noah He gave him the full directions on how to build the boat because Noah already had CRAZY FAITH to build the ark in the middle of the desert. See Noah didn’t really need a boast.

God showed him piece by peice in detail so that when the rain did come Noah, his family, and the animals wouldn’t have a issue.

How is God dealing with you at this present time?

For me like Abraham He is giving me most of my instructions step by step to build my faith back up. See I want to get the place were Noah was were without a doubt I’m building it doesn’t matter if I see or not.

I understand more than ever how important is to follow the “detail information as to how something should be done” in my life.

Do you have a better understand for yours? And if you don’t consult the Creator of the universe and remember He created you to!

Be Sweet 🍯

The Gift

When is the last time you received a gift?

Hummmmmmm, what pops in your mind when you think about a gift?

Do you think of money, a car, a vacation, do you think of materialistic things or small sentiments.

What crosses your mind when you think about the word?

Last night Shanti (my bestie) and I were talking about how we can have something in our possession but totally miss out by not getting the full use or have an understanding on how to utilize it.

As we were talking she said God gave “‘me this as a gift”. I said now ain’t that a word? We started cracking up because surely it is.

So back to the first question. God just gave you a gift.

What is a gift? (It could be a person, materials, or whatever you perceive as a gift)

How sentimental is the gift to you?

What did you do the show your appreciation for that gift?

I know for myself I’ve fumbled the ball in the area of really noticing that something is a gift. That it was my time to do the in wrapping. How about the gift of having my mom in my life. My mom believed in many times where I didn’t believe in myself.

The Word says that if we give good gifts to our children, just imagine how much better how much better are the gifts from me (paraphrasing)

God not only care about of outer but He is concern about the inner more part to. And as a child of the kings of Kings I can’t imagine what mines will be.

God is faithful to see the things he speaks about truth.

Know your gifts, understand your gifts, and push to succeed in that gift.

Be sweet 🍯

The Change

Written August 2018

It’s always amazes me how the season change and new situations come sweeping in.

Currently I’ve been having mixed emotions about this season I’m in now.

Even though there’s a lot to be joyful for like one of my best friend is getting married in October and she asked me to be her maid of honor, my daughters father is home for incarceration so I have a little more free time on my hands, I’m growing a little everyday in each of my relationships whether it’s a growth from understanding and acting on something positive or seeing something negative and learning how to walk through it.

Even with the growth though I still feel unfulfilled, I still feel like there is something missing from my life and I’m having trouble finding it. I’m having trouble sitting still and trusting God to lead and guide my footsteps. I mean I guess we all get into these slumps right?

How do we smile with our friends when great things are happening in there lives and ours seem to be standing still and not moving? How do we truly be happy with ourself when it seems like we have nothing to be happy about?

Let’s be honest here, I realize that my discontentment has nothing to do with anyone else but everything to do with me. How I view things, how I manuever through difficult and happy times. Change can sometimes be one of the hardest but needed things in our life.

One that I’m going to continue to do is be hopefully about change. I’m praying the same for you!

Be Sweet🍯

The Positioning

Written December 5th, 2018

It’s funny how God will position us in the right place at the right time just to receive something that He set up since before we even existed. I laugh because there’s so many times that I look back on and I’m like God wow that was you you did that for me.

Me little ole me what did I do to deserve that. But God doesn’t look at me or you as little at all see He has a predestined plan for our life (Jer. 29:11) that He’s putting together just so that we can for one fufill the work that He has for us on this earth and also so that we can be full.

You might say full of what?

Full of life, full of joy, full of hope, full of purpose, full of passion and most importantly full of love.

See it’s something about being exactly where God put me that give me a sense of me being worth it and I now understand that it’s because I’m doing exactly what I’m suppose to be doing where I’m suppose to be doing it and whether some days are harder than others there is still a grace that He gives me and you to do it.

For instance, I recently went through a period where I felt like I was ready to leave my now current church (Kingdom Keys Ministry) well I did that in September and from 9/9 – 11/11 I went back to the church I attended before I joined KKM and the experience was amazing I began to get filled up in the areas we’re I felt drained but I didn’t have any direction.

So I prayed and prayed and asked God what should I do but I didn’t get an answer you guys I mean really God was silent. I recieved answers about other prays but not this particular one until 11/11.

Let me tell y’all I went into service that morning excited because Bishop Calhoun was in town and I just knew he would have a fire word from the Lord that would push me closer to my predestined place but something interesting having when I stepped into the sanctuary this feeling came over me. I WASNT SUPPOSE TO BE THERE ! I knew it in that moment. I couldn’t lift my hands to worship like I normally would. I just stood there listening and singing but in my heart I knew.

Before I actually took the steps to rejoin the ministry I prayed that God would show me before Dec. 1st and unexpectedly He did that day. When Bishop started preaching his message was centered around “being where your suppose to be to fulfill your destiny” I was taking aback and I knew I had to go back because if not I would miss something major that was about to happen in my life.

NOW I am back in position was it easy, no but I’m pretty sure it’s well worth it! So anyone of you who may be feeling out of place speak to God and ask him even if He doesn’t answer you right at that second he will answer.

So what did I do? I listened …

Stay Encouraged, Stay Expecting , Stay in Position !

Be Sweet 🍯

The Disobedience

Wow! This one is one for the books. As I’m reading 1 (first) Samuel chapter 15. The word disobedience keeps popping in my head.

Have you ever been in a situation where your mother or father gave you an instruction but you didn’t follow all the way through with it. For example, my mom told me (instruction) to wash the dishes, sweep the floor, and cut off the lights. I decide that I’m going to wash the dishes, sweep the floor, but I’ll cut off the light later because I’m not going to bed yet. But I end of falling asleep and never turning off the light.

My mom wakes up notices the light is on wakes me out of my sleep and now I’m upset but it’s my fault because I didn’t follow the directions all the way through.

Have you ever been in a situation where you obeyed some but not the full directions which resulted in consequences?

Well this was the life of King Saul. As I’m reading I’m noticing how Saul wasn’t really good at listening and following through on what God told him to do. Not just in this chapter but in chapters before.

I watched (and I say watch because when I’m reading it’s almost like I’m watching a movie lol) how God gives King Saul specific instructions and he just moves outside of God everytime (go read 1 Samuel 13-15). Which resulted in him losing his place as the anointed king of Israel. So of course I begin to examine me.

How many times have I drop the ball in being fully obedient to God, His Word, and those in positions of authority over my life? If I can be completely truthful it’s an area that I struggle in greatly.

But y’all, I’m at a place where I don’t want to be that person anymore so I have been and continue to make different decisions even when there difficult ones. I realized through reading that some of King Saul’s disobedience stemmed from different areas like fear, pride, and a know it all spirit. Those things have to be dealt with in each and everyone of us in order for us to successfully move forward the way God sees fit.

TRUTH be told, each of our actions whether good or bad have a rippling effect on those around us as it did in King Saul’s life. We have to look at our true intent when doing things, look at what’s happening in our heart in order for us to truly repent.

Let’s examine ourselves together so we can be on the obedient side of the fence with the Lord our God.

Be Sweet 🍯

The Prophecy

Prophecy? Some of you may be saying what is that? What is Honey talking about? Let’s take a look at what the word prophecy means:

According to dictionary.com the word prophecy means:

⁃ the foretelling or prediction of what is to come

⁃ Something that is declared by a prophet, especially a divinely inspired prediction, instruction, or exhortation

⁃ A divinely inspired utterance or revelation

What if I told you that everything you speak out of your mouth about yourself becomes a prophecy (prediction of what is to come). Whether good or bad the things which you speak will come into existence if not now then somewhere down the line.

Let me share a quick story with you all. If you have been reading my post from the beginning then you will be able to follow along with no problem.

I’m taking you’ll back to when I was pregnant with Pey. Thing we’re rocky between her father and I and we weren’t in a relationship when we conceived her. If you were anywhere in my close circle you would know that I constantly would say, “I’m going to be a single mom raising my daughter, we’re going to be okay my mom raised all 5 of us and she was single. When Peyton turns 9 months old my husband is going to show up we will get married and we’re going to raise her together. He’s going to be a great stepdad.”

Constantly with no thought these were my words as the months flew passed. Not knowing that I was prophesying over myself and Peyton. I was calling those things I could not see yet as if it was already there.

9 months after I gave birth to this beautiful baby girl.

What did you all think happened?

I was working at this hotel as a bartender and that night I was schedule to work a party and you’ll I did not want to work this party at all. I went around the whole kitchen and bar area to see if someone wanted to switch but no one would.

With a pout I went to my station. As I was working. BAM a familiar face walks through the door and we meet eyes. My heart starts racing as a smile breaks out on both of our faces. All I could hear in my spirit was “HUSBAND”. He came over to the bar and wouldn’t leave until I gave him my number. I would have never thought, not that night and not this person. It was well worth it.

I spoke him into existence without even knowing that my words were powerful. You’ll that’s how powerful our words are. The Bible tells us life and death are in the power of the tongue (paraphrasing). Your words can become a self proclaimed prophecy over your life and your children (if you have them). Be very careful of what your saying.

SIDENOTE: I know you’ll want to know what happen with me and “MR”. Lol I’ll save that for another time.

In the meantime let’s SPEAK life over ourselves together.

Be Sweet 🍯

The Friendship Challenge

Ky 💙

A few years back I had a conversation with one of my best friends (I have three lol) about the trusting the process. Funny how we can look at someone else situation and tell that there going through a PROCESS but when It comes to our own we act like it’s the end of the world.

Me and Toya often crack up about this there are times when I need her to be my backbone, my cheerleader, the one to talk some sense into me, even when she may not know that I’m listening. When she talks I don’t take her words for granted because I know how much she loves me and that she wants the best for me and vice versa.

About five years ago I was seeking God for friends those who would walk out the test, and trials with me and help me fight through the journey covering me no matter what. Like King David and Johnathon (1 Samuel 20) God didn’t budge on giving me exactly what I needed and unbeknownst to me Toya was somewhere praying that same prayer.

But there was again a PROCESS.

When I prayed this prayer I was having a rocky time in one of my friendships where I didn’t feel like I could completely trust that person. Not that she would hurt me intentionally but that the direction that I needed to go wasn’t the direction her life was going in. God allow for the relationship to go left just so I can bump into Toya at the right time. See we had been going to Woman, I Am meeting for months together but never established anything other than a hi and bye. God is strategic he always has a backup plan.

Latoya 💚

Sidenote: You ever felt as through you prayed a prayer and it didn’t get through? I’m here to tell you God has heard your cry. Keep pressing He is with you!

See y’all God knows what we need when we need it. But He needs us to trust Him in order for us to get the fullness of the blessing. I didn’t know at the time that I would have to loss a friendship that was dear to me just to be giving a gift. I didn’t know that it would come with some scars but now I understand why and I will say it’s well worth it.

So whatever it is that your prayer your playing tug a war with God about let it go. I urge you to give it to Him. Let Him do Him and heal you so that you can take another step forward into who you are!

The people who your surrounded with are KEY.

Shanti 💖

Let’s give the ones He wants to remove to God together!

Be sweet 🍯!