A SUDDEN Change

Wow! We have made it into the New Year… we are 25 days in and to me it has felt like a sudden change has occurred mainly with my mindset. So the last few weeks it’s been impressed on me to get my finances in order. For one reason or another I haven’t been the best steward of what God has given me in that area. But I’m learning the meaning and life lesson behind, “if you are faithful with a few, I will make you ruler over much.”

A few weeks back as I was driving God was showing me how our Spiritual Growth and how we handle finances are directly link to each other. One without the other causes all other areas to be off balance.

I want you to close your eyes and imagine you, with no money, deep down in debt, drowning. Then imagine how you would feel spiritual? Would you feel like praying or fasting? (Which if this is your story you should still pray and fast) but your answer is probably no, Why? Well because worried, doubt, and fear of not having enough would probably be your potion over faith.

I know what your maybe thinking …Hummmm Nytavia, this is a interesting concept. I know why because this is the question that I had to answer for myself.

See the Bible says that the borrower is slave to the lender, it also says that faith without works is dead and if you don’t work you don’t eat.

So in order to exercise my faith I had to get up and make a change and a commitment to get out of debt by any means necessary.

A SUDDEN CHANGE in mindset had occurred in me. It’s like a lightbulb went off. “PIVOT” It’s time to change course and turn this thing around knowing that if I live like no one else now then I can live and give like no one else later (Dave Ramsey Quote)

What is the SUDDEN change that has happened in your life in the past 19 days? I would love to hear!

Be Sweet 🍯

The Turn Around

Repentance

Right now I’m at a place were I know that true repentance is needed for me to fully walk in the destiny that awaits me.

There needs to be firm action behind the words. I mean isn’t that what REPENT means anyways.

In the Bible we see alot of people, who were chosen by God to declare to different nations to REPENT. To turn away from there sins and turn to God. This is important because without truly repenting our prayers can be held up.

It’s like God is saying, “all I want you to do is STOP ✋🏽 , think 🤔, and make a decision, a precise one.” And if we just stop for a second, quiet our mind and listen. Then we can see that His ways are different then ours and most of the stuff that we are doing is bringing us in circles anyways.

HE HAS A PLAN… HE ALWAYS DOES.

But it’s up to you and I to either accept that plan or reject it.

To be fully transparent with y’all for the last few months I’ve been rejecting the plans of God for my life out of fear. When fear creeps in it’s my natural inclination to fold under pressure. THANK GOD FOR HIS PRAYER WARRIORS. Who stayed two steps ahead of me watching not only my front but my back to make sure that even if I fall. In the spiritual realm that God will help me right back up.

I’ve seen a miracle happen right before my own eyes within myself. But even with that I had to repent (turn away from my sin and walk towards God). Not with emotion or with feelings but with faith. When the battle gets tough like Jehoshaphat (2 Chronicles 20) when I see my enemies coming I’ll run to God in fasting and prayer and not away from it.

THERE’S ALWAYS A TURNING AROUND!

Be in Expectation, Be Sweet 🍯

#DECEMBERTOREMEMBER

The Pressure

It’s the last quarter, last month of the year and the pressure is ON!

To shape up, to either stay going full force in everything that we’ve already accomplished. To move forward with the goals we have set for ourselves or pick up were we left off.

DECEMBER2REMEMBER!

For me this month is a time to really reflect on what I have done with the past eleven months. 2020 has been so different (CO – VID HIT) if not for all of us for many. Some of us have weather the storms of this year by God’s grace, mercy, and provision ONLY!

As I go into these next few months, this new year that’s rolling around the corner. It makes me stop and reflect on how I can be a better daughter to God and my parents, a better mother to my daughter, a better roommate to my sister, a better mentor for my girls, and a better writer.

THE PRESSURE IS ON!

I know that I’m not the only one with these thoughts. Maybe not the same EXACT thoughts but similar. How can we be better? We don’t have time to wait on a new year to be a new us. We have to start not for those who haven’t been working….

THE PRESSURE IS ON!

BUT it’s worth it! So don’t give up or give in keep praying, writing, speaking, laughing, spending time with God, and crafting your future. It took Jesus Christ 30 years to start His ministry on this earth and He accomplished so much in just 3 and a half. Don’t allow age, time, or meaningless distractions stop you from moving forward. There’s people waiting on you!

Ending November with my fav 💕

Be Sweet 🍯

The Celebration

Guess what today is?

It’s the day that I deemed #traveltuesday! So let’s talk.

Niagara Falls, NY | 2020

You know everyone doesn’t get the luxury to travel the world but it’s something the God has purposely etched into my heart. This past weekend I visited Niagara Falls, NY (because Canada doesn’t want us in thanks to CO- ViD19). But y’all I must say it was breathtaking.

We went for my sister and I’s birthday! She turned 30 and I turned 29. So we CELEBRATED!

You know celebrating birthday’s is a very important tradition that my family (especially my mother) loves to do. It has been a blessing to be passed down to me.

We ate good food, we went to an Escape Room, we talked, we laughed, we went in the jacuzzi, and we enjoyed each other’s company.

What does the word CELEBRATE mean?

Dictionary.com says to celebrate mean to make known publicly, to proclaim

God doesn’t forget the little details when CELEBRATING. For example, when Jesus was born He was celebrated by His family and those who came to witness the King’s arrival to the earth. He was given all different kinds of treasures and gifts. This was to make His presence “known publicly.”

When you celebrate others with a cheerful heart expect from God the unexpectant when it comes to you!

The Bible says “you reap what you sow”. That principle is applied everywhere in your life whether good or bad.

So y’all celebrate with somebody today, like my sister and I did.

Be Sweet 🍯

The Gift

When is the last time you received a gift?

Hummmmmmm, what pops in your mind when you think about a gift?

Do you think of money, a car, a vacation, do you think of materialistic things or small sentiments.

What crosses your mind when you think about the word?

Last night Shanti (my bestie) and I were talking about how we can have something in our possession but totally miss out by not getting the full use or have an understanding on how to utilize it.

As we were talking she said God gave “‘me this as a gift”. I said now ain’t that a word? We started cracking up because surely it is.

So back to the first question. God just gave you a gift.

What is a gift? (It could be a person, materials, or whatever you perceive as a gift)

How sentimental is the gift to you?

What did you do the show your appreciation for that gift?

I know for myself I’ve fumbled the ball in the area of really noticing that something is a gift. That it was my time to do the in wrapping. How about the gift of having my mom in my life. My mom believed in many times where I didn’t believe in myself.

The Word says that if we give good gifts to our children, just imagine how much better how much better are the gifts from me (paraphrasing)

God not only care about of outer but He is concern about the inner more part to. And as a child of the kings of Kings I can’t imagine what mines will be.

God is faithful to see the things he speaks about truth.

Know your gifts, understand your gifts, and push to succeed in that gift.

Be sweet 🍯

The Purpose

The angry face

My daughter went through a surgery yesterday where she had to get her tonsils and her adenoids removed. She’s been in pain to the point were she doesn’t want to eat or drink, nor does she want to take her medicine which can soothe the pain.

Last night when I was making her some ice with juice she said to me “why would you do this to me?.” And I stopped and responded with, “baby I know it hurts now but it’s going to be good for you in the long run.” She just bust out crying because that isn’t what she wanted to hear.

As I comforted her I thought to myself how many times have I gone though some kind of pain in my life and asked the very same question. “God, why do I have to go through this?, why would you do this to me?” I’ve asked this question so many times before.

See what my daughter doesn’t understand is that because of her tonsils and adenoids she was having breathing problems which was messing with her sleep. She would wake up tired even after having a full night of sleep. Long term repercussions could have been sleep apnea.

Parallel to her the same has happened in my life (not with going though natural surgery, but spiritual surgery) were there was an unknown or unseen problem that God was fixing through my pain. Did I want to eat or drink the living word (no), did I want to take my spiritual medicine (read my Bible) no. I refused to be comforted just like Peyton.

What I didn’t understand was in the long run it would all be well worth it and I have thanked him for it.

How we perceive a situation isn’t always how God knows it’s going to turn out. He said in His Word “all things work together for the good of those who love the Lord and who are called according to His purpose.” His thoughts are not our thoughts and His ways are not our ways.

So instead of us challenging Him whenever something happens that may not feel the best let’s lean on Him and not our own understanding.

Be Sweet 🍯

The Stillness

Still?

What does it mean to be still? I would say that my definition of being still is sitting in a quiet place not doing anything, Literally. Even as I’m writing this post I’m picturing myself watching Peyton sitting in a chair and wigging around while eating and me saying to her, “Pey be still”.

It isn’t easy to be still when we live in a society that promotes fast pace lifestyle with EVERYTHING. If I’m not in the mood to cook I can either pick up some fast food or have a Uber to bring it, if I don’t feel like waiting for my favorite show to air every week I can just catch it on demand, I can pick up the phone and reach someone in a drop of a dime because of the fast pace we are going in.

But y’all what happens when God tells you to BE STILL? Let me be a little transparent. For the last 25 days I’ve been having skin-to-skin time with God. My big cousin Tiphani Montgomery (if you don’t know her look her up) taught us about the importance of Skin-to-Skin time with God.

What is Skin-to- Skin you say?

Think about what happens when a baby is born the doctors lays the baby on his/her mommas chest. The experience is amazing, the baby rest, it can’t talk , it’s can’t sing, just pure stillness, bonding and rest.

Like in the natural in the spiritual there are benefits to skin-to-skin like reduce crying, stabilized heart, breathing, and tempature of the baby and some long term effects are maternal attachment and transfer of good bacteria.

Tell me that isn’t amazing !

Being STILL in God eyes requires for us to put our trust in Him and what He doing in our lives at all times. Without even realizing it sometimes we are moving so fast and doing so much that we don’t even understand that we need skin-to-skin with our Heavenly Father to regulate us, so we can bond with him, so we can hear, so we can rest, and so we can get some good bacteria from Him.

It’s critical in this time to take a moment to BE STILL and remember your responsibilities will always be there.

I challenge each of you to spend 60 minutes of uninterrupted time laying on your Creator, your Father chest. Watch how your life begins to change little by little.

Be Sweet 🍯

The Change

Written August 2018

It’s always amazes me how the season change and new situations come sweeping in.

Currently I’ve been having mixed emotions about this season I’m in now.

Even though there’s a lot to be joyful for like one of my best friend is getting married in October and she asked me to be her maid of honor, my daughters father is home for incarceration so I have a little more free time on my hands, I’m growing a little everyday in each of my relationships whether it’s a growth from understanding and acting on something positive or seeing something negative and learning how to walk through it.

Even with the growth though I still feel unfulfilled, I still feel like there is something missing from my life and I’m having trouble finding it. I’m having trouble sitting still and trusting God to lead and guide my footsteps. I mean I guess we all get into these slumps right?

How do we smile with our friends when great things are happening in there lives and ours seem to be standing still and not moving? How do we truly be happy with ourself when it seems like we have nothing to be happy about?

Let’s be honest here, I realize that my discontentment has nothing to do with anyone else but everything to do with me. How I view things, how I manuever through difficult and happy times. Change can sometimes be one of the hardest but needed things in our life.

One that I’m going to continue to do is be hopefully about change. I’m praying the same for you!

Be Sweet🍯

The Disobedience

Wow! This one is one for the books. As I’m reading 1 (first) Samuel chapter 15. The word disobedience keeps popping in my head.

Have you ever been in a situation where your mother or father gave you an instruction but you didn’t follow all the way through with it. For example, my mom told me (instruction) to wash the dishes, sweep the floor, and cut off the lights. I decide that I’m going to wash the dishes, sweep the floor, but I’ll cut off the light later because I’m not going to bed yet. But I end of falling asleep and never turning off the light.

My mom wakes up notices the light is on wakes me out of my sleep and now I’m upset but it’s my fault because I didn’t follow the directions all the way through.

Have you ever been in a situation where you obeyed some but not the full directions which resulted in consequences?

Well this was the life of King Saul. As I’m reading I’m noticing how Saul wasn’t really good at listening and following through on what God told him to do. Not just in this chapter but in chapters before.

I watched (and I say watch because when I’m reading it’s almost like I’m watching a movie lol) how God gives King Saul specific instructions and he just moves outside of God everytime (go read 1 Samuel 13-15). Which resulted in him losing his place as the anointed king of Israel. So of course I begin to examine me.

How many times have I drop the ball in being fully obedient to God, His Word, and those in positions of authority over my life? If I can be completely truthful it’s an area that I struggle in greatly.

But y’all, I’m at a place where I don’t want to be that person anymore so I have been and continue to make different decisions even when there difficult ones. I realized through reading that some of King Saul’s disobedience stemmed from different areas like fear, pride, and a know it all spirit. Those things have to be dealt with in each and everyone of us in order for us to successfully move forward the way God sees fit.

TRUTH be told, each of our actions whether good or bad have a rippling effect on those around us as it did in King Saul’s life. We have to look at our true intent when doing things, look at what’s happening in our heart in order for us to truly repent.

Let’s examine ourselves together so we can be on the obedient side of the fence with the Lord our God.

Be Sweet 🍯

The Prophecy

Prophecy? Some of you may be saying what is that? What is Honey talking about? Let’s take a look at what the word prophecy means:

According to dictionary.com the word prophecy means:

⁃ the foretelling or prediction of what is to come

⁃ Something that is declared by a prophet, especially a divinely inspired prediction, instruction, or exhortation

⁃ A divinely inspired utterance or revelation

What if I told you that everything you speak out of your mouth about yourself becomes a prophecy (prediction of what is to come). Whether good or bad the things which you speak will come into existence if not now then somewhere down the line.

Let me share a quick story with you all. If you have been reading my post from the beginning then you will be able to follow along with no problem.

I’m taking you’ll back to when I was pregnant with Pey. Thing we’re rocky between her father and I and we weren’t in a relationship when we conceived her. If you were anywhere in my close circle you would know that I constantly would say, “I’m going to be a single mom raising my daughter, we’re going to be okay my mom raised all 5 of us and she was single. When Peyton turns 9 months old my husband is going to show up we will get married and we’re going to raise her together. He’s going to be a great stepdad.”

Constantly with no thought these were my words as the months flew passed. Not knowing that I was prophesying over myself and Peyton. I was calling those things I could not see yet as if it was already there.

9 months after I gave birth to this beautiful baby girl.

What did you all think happened?

I was working at this hotel as a bartender and that night I was schedule to work a party and you’ll I did not want to work this party at all. I went around the whole kitchen and bar area to see if someone wanted to switch but no one would.

With a pout I went to my station. As I was working. BAM a familiar face walks through the door and we meet eyes. My heart starts racing as a smile breaks out on both of our faces. All I could hear in my spirit was “HUSBAND”. He came over to the bar and wouldn’t leave until I gave him my number. I would have never thought, not that night and not this person. It was well worth it.

I spoke him into existence without even knowing that my words were powerful. You’ll that’s how powerful our words are. The Bible tells us life and death are in the power of the tongue (paraphrasing). Your words can become a self proclaimed prophecy over your life and your children (if you have them). Be very careful of what your saying.

SIDENOTE: I know you’ll want to know what happen with me and “MR”. Lol I’ll save that for another time.

In the meantime let’s SPEAK life over ourselves together.

Be Sweet 🍯